EMPOWERING YOU TO TAKE BACK YOUR VOICE AND POWER
Self EsteemCounselling
Opening yourself up to greater self love and self compassion
Imagine feeling more confident and powerful, showing up with greater poise and grace.
Learning to love and cherish ourselves is often not something we were taught in child or early adulthood. Parents, our educational system and community teach us how to be in relationship —-but often the theme is to help the child become a contributing member of society, following the rules that come with this process of preparation for adulthood. These values include conformity and acquiesence to the group norm— often at the expense of being unique, honoring our special flavor or following our own pathway.
When we identify with a sense of internal faith, in possibility instead of restrictions, we are better able to rise to the challenges that come with being a human. The process of nurturing greater trust in ourselves, in letting our intuition lead us, and in opening our minds involves getting to know ourselves better through self reflection, and self awareness.
When we step into our own power, we learn that our voice matters — and we realize the importance of being true to ourself. We begin to embody a new way of being —- being in relationship with self in a way that promotes a more positive self image.
This may involve incorporating work involving boundaries, self care, loving self talk, trauma-informed perspective, relationship issues, grounding and restructuring thought patterns to be more assertive and empowering. We become more receptive to living a life of joy, appreciation, gratitude and play.
You’re ready to start…
Know you are good enough
Increase your self confidence
Love yourself more fully and deeply
Becoming your best self
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Increasing unconditional acceptance, self love, self esteem
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Loving ourself for all of who we are
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Nurture an identity and approach of love
Discover your compassionate parts
Our shadow self and inner critic are often seen as mental intruders that we want to ostracize , suppress or extract. Trauma triggers can cause us to panic and brush them aside — but a different perspective sees all of our internal voices as a having a role to play when we shift our focus to our inner work with a more loving gaze.
However, its also important to recognize the presence of protective parts of self that offer a reprieve from those negative backlash thoughts. We don’t see reality - we see our minds distorted projections of our past.
Instead of allowing our biases, fears and hopes to run amuck, we can learn to practice self compassion and non-judgement. By sending love to those hidden or wounded parts, we can choose greater harmony within.
It can be helpful to work with a therapist on deconstructing our negative voice and nurturing this unconditionally loving voice. This work is derived from Dr. Kristin Neff’s program on Mindful Self-Compassion — from which I use to explore many exercises to practice self love and expand self care. I also incorporate parts work principles from Internal Family Systems (IFS) with Richard Schwartz.
This focus on self care offers an attitude of honoring our hearts, bodies and minds. We seek the light of our awareness to help enhance the strength and resiliency of our body’s inherent wisdom and innate propensity towards healing.
Instead of waiting for others to love us, we can give ourself the gift of our presence, sweetness and softness. We can become our own best friend.
At the end of the day, I want you to know:
Loving yourself leads to an aliveness and vibrancy that extends to others. You are a gift to the world.
Is Brainspotting right for you?
It’s going to be ok. You will get through this.
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With meditation, visualization and mindful practice, explore the process of loving self talk and self compassion with kindness.
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Soften our expectations of self. Bring a more loving approach to our past experiences. Create a future of acceptance.
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Allow space for curiosity and awareness of your thoughts, especially if there are judgemental beliefs. Enhance emotional well being.
Frequently asked questions —
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Self compassion and kindness reduces anxiety, stress, depression and shame.
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Self kindness, common humanity, mindfulness.
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Ask yourself “What do I need?”
